How to Choose the Right Life Insurance Agent for Your Financial Future

When Bruce came back from recording this episode of The Money Advantage podcast, he told me something that hit hard:

He shared how frustrated he feels every time he hears about a family who loses a loved one without proper life insurance. Suddenly, their friends and community are scrambling to create a GoFundMe page just to cover funeral expenses and basic needs.

Life insurance is more than numbers—it’s a financial hug that wraps around your family when they need it most. And the person who helps you design and implement it—your insurance agent—has an enormous impact on whether your family experiences peace of mind or financial devastation.

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Why the Right Life Insurance Agent Matters

Most people don’t realize how choosing the right insurance agent can impact their family’s entire financial future. The right agent will walk with you for decades, guiding you through life insurance decisions and strategies like Infinite Banking. The wrong one? They may sell you a policy you don’t understand, disappear within a year, and leave your family unprotected. In this article, I’ll share insights from Bruce Wehner and his guests Rob Brayton and Jesse Durham on what to look for, red flags to avoid, and exactly how to choose the right life insurance agent for your needs.

In this article, I want to share the insights Bruce and his guests, Rob Brayton and Jesse Durham, discussed on the podcast. Together, their combined decades of experience in life insurance highlight exactly what you should look for in an insurance agent—and the red flags to avoid.

By the end of this article, you’ll know:

• Why your choice of insurance agent matters so much.
• The difference between traditional “needs analysis” and a modern, values-based approach.
• The top qualities that separate a great insurance agent from a mediocre one.
• Red flags that should make you pause before signing on the dotted line.
• Why Infinite Banking requires a very specific kind of agent.
• The key questions you should ask before choosing your advisor.

This isn’t just about buying a product—it’s about choosing the right partner for your family’s financial future and legacy.

Why Learning How to Choose the Right Life Insurance Agent Matters

Too often, people see life insurance as a commodity. They Google “cheapest life insurance” and buy the lowest-priced option, thinking they’ve checked the box. But life insurance is not about buying the cheapest product.

As Bruce said, that would be like asking, “What’s the lowest price I can get cancer removed from my body?” No one in their right mind would ask that! You’d ask, “Who’s the best doctor? Who will walk with me through treatment? Who will actually care for my life?”

That’s the role of a great insurance agent. They’re not just selling coverage. They’re protecting your family’s future, guiding you through complex financial decisions, and ensuring your strategy works not just today, but decades from now.

Needs vs. Wants: A Modern Approach to Insurance

In the old days, insurance was sold through a “needs analysis.” An agent would sit down with a calculator, run the numbers, and tell you exactly how much coverage you “needed.”

But as Bruce explained, he’s changed his thinking. It’s not just about what you need. It’s about what you want.

Do you want your spouse to never have to work again if you pass away?
Do you want your kids’ education fully funded, no matter what?
Do you want your family to live debt-free, with breathing room to grieve without financial stress?

A great insurance agent doesn’t just run numbers—they ask questions about your values, dreams, and goals. They help you design insurance that fits your life, not just a formula.

Top Qualities To Look For When Choosing the Right Insurance Agent

So what separates a great agent from the rest? Rob and Jesse identified several qualities:

1. Integrity and Trust

Is this person in it for the long haul—or just the commission? A great agent genuinely wants to serve your family, not just close a sale.

2. Longevity and Commitment

Will they be there when you need them most? Too many agents leave the industry after a year or two. A true advisor stays for the long run, serving clients for decades.

3. Education

Are they willing to teach you? Infinite Banking, in particular, requires ongoing learning. A strong agent is patient, clear, and committed to making sure you understand what you own.

4. Process and Personalization

Do they follow a clear process to understand your financial picture? The best agents ask thoughtful questions about your cash flow, assets, goals, and family dynamics.

5. A Network and Legacy Mindset

Great agents don’t work as lone wolves. They connect you with a team and think generationally—helping you design a system your children and grandchildren can build on.

Red Flags When Deciding How to Choose the Right Life Insurance Agent

Just as important as what to look for is what to avoid. Here are the biggest red flags Bruce highlighted:

• Downplaying the death benefit. Some agents treat it like an afterthought. Don’t fall for it. Your death benefit is crucial for protecting your family.
• Trying to replace your policy unnecessarily. If an agent’s first move is to “compare your policy” and convince you to switch, be cautious. Policy replacement often benefits the agent more than you.
• Selling Infinite Banking without being upfront about insurance. If someone markets IBC as just a “banking system” and hides the fact that it’s built on whole life insurance, that’s a red flag.
• Focusing only on price. Cheap isn’t always better. The wrong policy can cost you far more in the long run.

Why Infinite Banking Requires the Right Insurance Agent

Not every insurance agent understands Infinite Banking. In fact, many dismiss it outright or don’t know how to properly design policies for it.

As Jesse pointed out, you should ask one critical question: “Does this agent practice Infinite Banking themselves?” If they can’t show you the policies they personally fund, be cautious.

Implementing Infinite Banking correctly requires expertise in policy design, education, and long-term strategy. The right agent doesn’t just sell you a policy—they coach you through becoming your own banker and building a multigenerational wealth system.

Questions to Ask Before Hiring an Insurance Agent

Here are four powerful questions to vet your agent:

1. What experience do you have with Infinite Banking and whole life insurance?
2. How do you help clients build financial legacy?
3. What is your process for ongoing education and annual reviews?
4. Do you personally own policies you use for Infinite Banking?

These questions reveal not just competence, but also character, alignment, and commitment.

Why This Matters

At the end of the day, choosing an insurance agent is not just a financial decision—it’s a legacy decision.

The right agent will:

• Help you protect your family.
• Teach you how to build and use your life insurance as a wealth-building tool.
• Walk with you for decades, ensuring your strategy adapts as life changes.

The wrong agent could leave you with an inadequate policy, broken promises, or a strategy that fails when your family needs it most.

Your financial future—and your family’s security—deserve more than that.

Book A Strategy Call

This article has given you a framework for how to choose the right life insurance agent—one who will guide you, educate you, and help you build a financial legacy. If you’re ready to explore working with an advisor who understands Infinite Banking and multigenerational planning, I invite you to book a call with our team at The Money Advantage.

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